I’ve been through many bad relationships in the past where the guy would leave me, so in this relationship I was prepared for the worst from the very beginning. My ex and I dated for three months (March, April, May), and in the first two months I was very skeptical that this will last.
Whenever my ex showed any sign of affection, I would push him away knowing that this won’t last. For two months I was frustrated with myself for being unemployed, losing family members, angry at God, and I let out my frustrations on my ex. During the third month I fell in love with him, I realized that this could last, and he’s seen my worst and supported me all this time. So whenever I showed him affection, the tables have turned and he pushed me away. He admitted he lost attraction towards me and the relationship quickly escalated to friendship.
He broke up with me on May 31, and wants to be friends with me — like really good friends because I’m fun to be around. I want something more, and I want to make things right. I love him, I have a hard time accepting the breakup as well as the friendship and I want him back. He’s been messaging me right after the break up and what not… but as friends.
For the first week or so, we remained friends, however I had to break it off cuz it was hurting too much. I unfriended him on Facebook two days ago and he blocked me on Facebook altogether. I really love this guy and I know he wants to move on… but I was just wondering, is there any hope left? I love him A LOT.
I want to know how I can get him back.
I so wish I could talk this out with you over a cup of coffee, because I’ve been where you are several times myself. Breakups suck. Right now in the midst of the heartache and loss, it feels like he is the solution to your sadness. I know you want him back. I know you love him. But getting him back won’t fix anything.
Here are a few things I noticed: